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Message # 32294.2 Subject: Re: addiction - a positive side to the story Date: Wed 24/10/07 20:20:04 GMT Name: stevie |
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ive gone through some of the same thoughts that you wrote down there so i feel a lot better for having read your comments. thanks for sharing |
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By Anonymous - Wed 24/10/07 17:31:09 GMT Like some others who have posted here, I have had problems in the past with addiction to this forum, and the activity of wetlook browsing on the internet in general, but I have a much more positive message to deliver as a result.
I have definitely recognised my computer and forum use as addiction, and I have recognised the same kind of behaviour that has led other people to quit. For example, I nearly always check the forums as soon as I get in after work. I get frustrated if I can't do this for more than a day or two. I have spent hours clicking away at pictures and videos of people getting wet, whilst getting very turned on. Other times, I do this through force of habit, and the sexual urge isn't even there, but I have to do it anyway.
My wife knows that I like wetlook, but she doesn't know how much time I spend surfing the internet for our version of porn. I have come up with some extraordinary strategies to hide the lengths of my interest from her.
After a while I realised that I was addicted and realised that there was a danger of it taking over me completely. I realised that I was so obsessed with wetlook that there was a danger of me subconsciously rejecting my wife sexually, because she isn't into it at all, and I got to be afraid that she could not arouse me without being in wet clothes. That is not a situation that I want to get into, because I love my wife more than anything, and I do also think that she is a very attractive woman, whom I happen to fancy!
I tried going cold turkey, cutting all my wetlook internet activity, and I admit that, during this period, I did manage to convince myself that I could go without the computer. However, I couldn't go without getting wet in clothes myself, and eventually, I had to turn back to the computer. When I did, it was as if I had unleashed a dam, because, during my self imposed period of abstinence, the community had continued posting and discussing all kinds of wetlook content, and I felt obliged to burn my way through every single posting, in case I missed something good.
Now, at this stage, I was well aware of the fact that this habit was not very healthy, so afterwards, I decided to try a different approach, and that is to embrace the taste I have for wetlook, whilst controlling the addiction.
So now, I still feel the need to log on every day or two, but I have trained myself to accept that I don't need to read EVERY single posting. I will have a browse, maybe get turned on a bit, and then go and do something else. I have come to terms with the fact that if I don't get the chance to indulge for a bit, things won't go away. I simply do not need to monitor 100% of posts. In the same way, I enjoy films and music, but I can get by without seeing every single 5* film and hearing every new release. I just know that that world is there, for me to dip into when I want it.
All of which sounds very neutral, but in fact there is a positive side to my wetlook browsing too. Now, when I have had a long session on the computer, and I am particularly turned on, I find that I have a choice. One option is to masturbate and release the energy that way. However, increasingly, I find that instead, what I am doing is shutting down the computer, and storing myself up to make sexual advances towards my wife. I know that she appreciates the attention, and I am able to transfer the arousal I have obtained from pictures of other people on the internet, directly to her.
There are people who would criticise this and say that I am being unfaithful in my mind, but I am completely happy with my relationship with my wife and love her 100%, apart from the fact that she doesn't share my fetish, even though she knows about it. So why should I bring the whole relationship down when there is an outlet here that works for me? As long as I can control and moderate things, I actually see the forums as a positive influence, allowing me an output for my feelings, without needing to be physically unfaithful or bottling up my feelings.
Anyway, I hope that makes some people out there feel better about themselves. I am posting this anonymously for now, but I may own up to my online identity later on, depending on the feedback this post receives!
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